Everyone wants to succeed, but not many people know how to do it. They may have a good idea of what they want and what their ultimate goal is, although what needs to be learned is the process to get to it. One way to achieve this is to create an iron will. Or, rather, as I apply it in my life: an unwavering will.
What exactly is an unwavering will? It’s when you fully commit to their goals and refuse to let anything stand in their way.
When you are someone unwavering, you will do whatever it takes to reach your goal. You’ll find ways to get around obstacles instead of letting them stop you.
How to forge your will beyond obstacles
Success isn’t just about having a good plan. It is also about strength, clarity, perseverance, determination, discipline, preparation and inner commitment.
When you work with total conviction in your strength instead of leaning on your weaknesses, you stop complaining and take responsibility for each and every episode of your life.
Only in this way do you enlarge yourself and forge a capacity of stoicism to face everything that comes your way.
An iron will can push you through the most difficult times and help you achieve what others – and even you – may think is impossible.
There are many different theories when it comes to building within yourself this kind of will that few have. Some people believe in motivating or hiring a professional coach or mentor who has been successful in the area in which you want to succeed. Others say that the iron will arises from within and cannot be developed by any external source.
Despite these divergent opinions, one thing remains true: an unwavering will can help you achieve any goal you set for yourself, no matter how lofty it may seem at first.
It all starts with a choice
Experience indicates that all people who achieve extraordinary results in their lives and careers have an enormous dose of will and that they are unwavering in three decisive aspects: their decisions, their convictions and their values.
Choices have to do with being able to choose the best path available at all times, and seeing each possibility as a space for creating the future, in the present.
Being able to choose is a sign of maturity. But making the right choice is the true sign of wisdom.
As far as convictions are not, no one can have willpower to the test if he is not deeply consussed with his goals.
And values are the pillars of ethics, purpose and legacy on which you build your future, bringing it to the present. That is, you will create that greater vision as a guide, and from the present, whatever the point where you are, you begin to take each of the steps and decisions that lead you directly to that path.
5 secrets to having an unwavering will
Today I want to reveal to you these five secrets that I have been practicing for years, with which I have developed a will to prove any kind of obstacles; my desire is that you will be able to make anything you set out to do a reality:
1. Selective attention
Starting from the extremely clear and precise definition of your objectives, which must be specific, measurable, realistic, tangible and put in writing in a certain time, you will focus all your desire, attention, passion and enthusiasm on the intentional attention of the steps and resources necessary to achieve it.
Choosing selective attention involves giving up everything (yes, everything) that doesn’t lead you toward the goal.
Many times it involves a total rethinking of your way of life, and especially of your habits, because you are the consequence of what you do day by day. Without the right habits, you won’t get the result. If you don’t, you won’t make it.
2. Don’t tie yourself to the past: you’re not just your story
While the past has forged who you are, permanently doing a review of the person you were will lead you to compare yourself to “that being” from years ago. And you’re not anymore: in the infinite realm of possibilities, you can choose to be much bigger, better, stronger, abundant, and whatever other quality you want to add.
People tend to justify their inaction because they spend much more mental time in the past than in the future. They have anchored themselves in their disappointments, frustrations, the limiting beliefs they received, and failures.
But you know what? You are much greater than your limitations if you know how to awaken an unwavering will.
The future is really where you want to go to achieve goals. To achieve this, you need to change your mental model, which is the way you tell the story of your life in your head. We all do; only that some put a happy ending to the story, while more than 90% of people abandon their story by half, and always conclude it in a negative way.
This relates to stagnant patterns of thinking: in the absence of mental flexibility, they limit the emergence of new opportunities. Everything originates in the quality of thoughts.
So, at this point, forgive, let go, don’t judge your past, value and go on, look forward and focus with extreme surgical precision on what you are going to achieve. The time to change is now, and you have an unwavering will that you didn’t know you can forge.
3. Forge your thoughts: become sculpting your life
Energy follows thought that transforms into concrete action in your life. 90% of people think negative 90% of the time, imagine the result!
Changing the pieces of your mental model, without denying your past, choose to let go of the schemes that no longer serve you. This way you will build a ladder of motivation and self-leadership towards the future, which is what really matters, because backwards you cannot change things, although you can create them completely different forward.
To achieve an unwavering will you need to visualize yourself as an artist of sculpture: Michelangelo survived criticism when he was told that he was not able to achieve what he set out to do, and he said: “where you see a piece of marble, I am seeing The David I am doing with my hands.”
Every day, the famous artist left his place of work impeccable; he discarded everything that was no longer useful for his work: do the same. Discard what is useless for your development. Sculpt your life; polish every moment starting by managing your levels of thoughts that do not bring you closer to what you want.
4. Persevere and do not persist
It seems like a contradiction. Let me explain: persevering means moving forward with all your power and will in what you know works for you; but do not persist in those paths that you see do not add value to your goal. Recalculate and follow.
While this distinction is subtle, it will help you not to waste your time and effort, as you need to focus energy more than ever.
Do not persist in what damages you or takes away power. For example, let go of distractions, vices, and any other issues that are not in line with your iron will. Instead, persevere by adding healthy, constructive habits that bring you closer to what you want.
5. Be thankful for the good and the failed experiences
A characteristic of people with unwavering will is that when they succeed, they bless and thank him. And when they fail, they do exactly the same thing and extract the juice of learning.
Therefore, a great key is that you do not lament if you do not quickly reach the objectives: “Everything big involves effort and is uphill,” my teacher John Maxwell taught me.
Notice how curious that people tend to assign success only to good luck, or, worse, failures to what they call bad luck.
Those of us who have unwavering will do not trust in good luck: we feed it every day, and we act based on our convictions affirmed in total and absolute personal responsibility, which is the ability to respond in the best way to what happens.
The question you should ask yourself in moments of challenge is: “What do I want to happen and that depends on me?” and in that way, you will find creative solutions and get out of the stagnation and mediocrity of “I do not know”, “you can’t”, “it is not my time” and so many other justifications that you may put on yourself.
Unwavering will is a skill that can be developed. It’s not that we’re super-humans, but ordinary people, with an extraordinary inner talent to make what you set out to do happen. And that’s up exclusively to you if you believe enough in your inner strength.